Part 1: A Second Reason to Fight for Sexual Purity
By: Margaret Knight
A couple of disclaimers:
- This blog is specifically intended for Christian men, to encourage and inspire them to treat women in a way that makes believers and nonbelievers glorify God. If you are not a Christian, you are still welcome here. If you have any questions or criticisms, feel free to reach out to me.
- I know that women abuse, demean, and objectify men. However, I would say something different to women about their mistreatment of men. In this piece, I would just like to address heterosexual men who claim to be followers of Christ.
My father told me once, “A Christian man is capable of doing everything a non-Christian man does if he does not have other men holding him accountable. A Christian man would buy sex from a prostitute.”
I became afraid when I heard my father say this. I feared for my husband and the potential secrets he could keep from me while I unknowingly lived a lie. I feared for my male Christian friends and wondered what lies, guilt, and hopelessness were potentially suffocating some of them. I wondered how Christian men who are currently winning the battle of sexual temptation did it.
“Sexual purity is important, we know.”
We talk about sexual purity a lot in the Church. It’s important because God commands it (i.e. 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 and 1 Thessalonians 4:3-6) and it brings us closer to Him (Matthew 5:8). There are a lot of materials out there about sexual purity and our personal relationship with God. I want to focus on another topic in this piece. I want to discuss how some heterosexual men’s lack of obedience to God in this area affects women and reveals some men’s sinful view of women.
The Second Greatest Commandment: Love Your Neighbor as Yourself
A lawyer once asked Jesus, “Teacher, which is the great commandment in the Law?” Jesus replied, “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the great and foremost commandment. The second is like it. You shall love your neighbor as yourself” (Matthew 22:35-39, my emphasis added).
Christian men, let’s talk about how to love your neighbor, particularly women and women who work in the commercial sex industry, as yourselves.
I know almost all of you have interacted with or at least seen a woman in the commercial sex industry, whether it’s by going to a strip club, buying sex from a prostitute, or watching pornography. Men (including Christian men) play the most vital role in the commercial sex industry because they are mostly the demand. Some of you demand her, use her, judge her (hypocritically), and throw her away like she’s an object, not a human being bearing your Heavenly Father’s image.
Those of you that do this, do you ever think about this woman in a non-sexual way? Do you ever wonder what her life is like, what her family was like when she was young, or how she came to be a commercial sex worker? You probably don’t wonder those things because you don’t want to know. You don’t want to know because the world teaches you not to care. If you cared and found out the truth about her, your heart would break.
How would you feel if others treated you this way?
Preview of Part 2
In Part 2, we’ll talk about how the world you live in views the commercial sex industry and the women who work in it. This worldview poisons your mind and darkens your heart. This darkness flows out of your heart and, whether you realize it or not, affects how you treat all women, causing you to sin against God.
Margaret lives in Indianapolis where she is a law student focusing on Criminal Law. After graduating from law school, she wants to be an advocate for those who are suffering from injustices, most specifically human trafficking. Margaret enjoys learning how to cultivate a hospitable heart, traveling to new places, and growing in knowledge about God through His Word and life experiences. She has volunteered as Ascent 121’s social media and blog manager since March 2015.